Co-dependency is characterized by sacrificing your personal needs in order to try to meet the needs of others. You go to excessive lengths to do things for others, hoping that your actions will gain their approval and acceptance. What matters most is to feel loved by your loved ones. Your deepest fear is to feel abandonment. You feel worthless and helpless inside and believe that rejection is inevitable. You desperately cling to destructive relationships, even though you know that they are harmful to you.
After allowing others to make your life decisions, you lack the ability to trust your own judgement about everyday life decisions. Others automatically make decisions for you without your consultation, or you are overly faithful in the advice and opinions of others over your own.
You usually feel alienated from others whether alone or in a group. You tend to avoid social, especially group settings unless you feel accepted.
Do you find yourself…
Help & Treatment
Seeking professional help early can help to reduce the harmful consequences of co-dependency.
Screening - The aim of the initial session is to identify the presence of co-dependency, as well as any negative effects that have been brought about by the addiction. Any other existing mental health conditions are screened for in order to provide a deeper understanding of the client.
Assessment - This is a comprehensive understanding of the severity and depth of the co-dependency problem in the context of the client's life. The individual's strengths, weaknesses, problems and needs are taken into account in order to collaborate for an effective solution. Potential risks are also discussed to integrate into the treatment planning. A discussion of a suitable treatment plan will proceed after the assessment.
Treatment Planning + Counselling - The treatment plan is tailored to the client's needs. Immediate and long-term goals are established. A discussion of WE CARE's holistic services is included in the treatment planning. Brief therapy is provided to clients with mild to moderate co-dependency problems. An intensive and long-term recovery approach is more appropriate for chronic co-dependency.
If you or someone you know has a co-dependency problem, we strongly encourage you to make an appointment with us. Call 3165 8017 or email email@example.com
WE CARE has started a new support group called “Family and Friends Support Group”. Facilitated by WE CARE counsellors, this group is meant for spouses, partners, family members or friends affected by an addicted loved one.
"Family & Friends" teaches effective strategies for self-care and how to cope with the recovering addict. The support group focuses on changing the way you interact with the recovering loved one. Using the CRAFT Model and SMART Recovery tools, we will touch on important topics that family members and friends experience, including:
The goals for "Family & Friends" are
"Family & Friends" is scheduled on the 1st and 3rd Thursday of each month, 7pm to 830pm, at WE CARE, Wisdom Room.
The group has been meeting since August 2018 but you can join in at any time.
If you are an affected family member or friend and you wish to attend "Family & Friends", contact Sida at 3165 8017 or NoorSida@wecare.org.sg to register.
SMART stands for Self-Management & Recovery Training. Participants learn tools for addiction recovery based on the latest scientific research and participate in a world-wide community which includes free, self-empowering, science-based mutual help groups. All facilitators are registered SMART Recovery Facilitators.
SMART is an ongoing closed group and caters to individuals with a history of addiction. Interested participants are required to undergo a clinical intake before attending SMART Recovery.
If interested, please email firstname.lastname@example.org
When : Every Thursday 3.00pm to 4.30pm
Venue: Serenity Room at WE CARE
Mindfulness For Recovery
Mindfulness for Recovery is an open group to learn and practice mindfulness. Mindfulness helps participants to break away from their own destructive habitual patterns. All facilitators have personal experience practising mindfulness. This group is catered for people with a history of addictions, reactive behaviours and/or mood disorders.
When : Friday, 630pm to 730pm
Venue: Courage Room at WE CARE Community Services
To register: call 3165 8017 or email email@example.com