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  Sex And Love Addiction  
     
 

The lack of ability to curb sexual behaviours can cause substantial distress to one’s emotional health and can have an adverse impact on close intimate relationships.

Sex addicts lack the ability to control or postpone sexual feelings and actions, with the need for arousal often replacing the need for intimacy. Eventually, thrill seeking becomes more important than family, career, even personal health and safety.

There is a ritual before leading to acting out on desires. Often the most pleasurable aspect of acting out sexually is in the preoccupation of the act: the planning, plotting and anticipation of the behavior. After that, the individual felt shame, despair, and confusion. The cycle repeats itself.

Addictive sexuality is like most other compulsive behaviors: a destructive twist on a normal life-enhancing activity. Defining sex addiction depends less on the behavior itself than on the person's motivation.

Love addicts go through life with desperate hopes and constant fears. Fearing rejection, pain, unfamiliar experiences, and having little faith in their ability or right to inspire love, they wait and wish for love, perhaps their least familiar real experience.

Signs of Love or Sex Addiction Include:

  • Constantly seeking a sexual partner or new romance 
  • An inability or difficulty in being alone
  • Consistently choosing partners who are abusive or emotionally unavailable
  • Using sex, seduction and intrigue to "hook" or hold onto a partner
  • Using sex or romantic intensity to tolerate difficult experiences or emotions
  • Missing out on important family, career or social experiences in order to maintain a sexual high or romantic relationship
  • When in a relationship, being detached or unhappy, when out of a relationship, feeling desperate and alone
  • Avoiding sex or relationships for long periods of time to "solve the problem".
  • An inability to leave unhealthy relationships despite repeated promises to self or others
  • Returning to previously unmanageable or painful relationships despite promises to self or others
  • Mistaking sexual experiences and romantic intensity for love

As Patrick Carnes states, “Contrary to enjoying sex as a self-affirming source of physical pleasure, the sex addict has learned to rely on sex for comfort from pain, for nurturing or relief from stress,” comparable to the alcoholic’s purposeful use of alcohol.

 

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